swerte gaming My Home Is Messy, and I Don’t Feel Bad About It

I’m a therapist who writes about housekeeping hacks for messy people. When I post videos about my home — a place where clean laundry is tossed unfolded into baskets and a giant trash can on wheels rolls around my kitchen — the comment section explodes with admonitions that I am lazy. My private inbox, however, is different. People often tell me my embrace of mess is revolutionizing their lives.

“Are you saying that I’m not a horrible person and that I’m not just making excuses?”

“I just found you and I’m already crying in relief that I’m not the only one.”

The world is harsh toward messy people. I get it. Not that long ago I thought the home of a mature, successful woman was a bright and airy haven, à la HGTV’s famous interior designer Joanna Gaines, one with made beds and clear countertops. Homes where all the stuff is neatly packed away into artfully labeled containers, and where there are no piles or smudges.

My home has never looked like that. For years, it felt as if I failed the aesthetic litmus test for being grown-up and put together. But four years ago, I accepted something that freed me and brought unexpected joy: I am messy.

Messiness ought to be celebrated. Instead, it’s a problem to solve, a bad habit to rectify, something to apologize for profusely when a visitor walks in. At best, you might forgive yourself or joke about your defect — your character flaw, really, since our culture associates messiness with laziness.

Speaking in the battleground state of Pennsylvania, where Vice President Kamala Harris has a slight edge in recent polls, Mr. Trump bristled at the notion that his struggles with women voters could cost him the election and suggested that his tough talk about immigration and economic proposals would resonate with them.

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